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Dear Ducky,

Is possible to enlarge my penis?

-Curious About Size

This is a common question. For decades men have been seeing ads for pumps and pills that claim to increase penis size. Pills may offer a placebo effect, pumps may be a lot of fun to use and a pump may help you feel larger while you are using it, but the truth is there are two legitimate ways for a guy to gain size.

The first technique is to lose weight. The more weight a guy carries, the less of his shaft is outside his body.

The second way is through a surgery where they cut some connective tissue that holds the penis. Essentially it releases part of the root of his penis, so there is more of his shaft outside of your body. Some men may also opt to have dermal implants, where the surgeon takes fat from another part of the body and injects it into the penis to increase girth. If you are curious to know more, there are plenty of first person accounts of how successful these surgeries may or may not be available online.

But before you run off and do something drastic, please remember size is just a thing. Your body is beautiful. Intercourse is not the definition of sex; it’s just one sex act. You have two beautiful hands, a mouth, toys, and most important of all, a mind. If you become a serious student of how to get your partner off – size is not a matter.

Dear Ducky,

I just got a call from my gyno saying I’ve contracted the HPV virus. They say it’s not a huge deal, a lot of women have it and that I just need to keep an eye out to prevent cervical cancer. I freaked out. I have no symptoms; I just got the test because it was offered. They said I’ve never been checked for it in their office because the usual blood tests don’t search for HPV. I guess I could have contracted it long ago. I thought I was getting tested for everything with each pap smear and that gave me a clean bill of health.

Am I likely to get a cancer? Warts? What can I do to keep my body healthy and not feel like it’s the end of the world?

-Devistated

News like this can be shocking. But take a deep breath. There are reasons why your doctor was calm about it. One of those reasons is that HPV is so wide spread that gynecologists consider it to be a “benchmark of sexual activity.” In other words they assume all humans have it. Doctors do not bother testing for it unless you specifically ask.

HPV is so common that Planned Parenthood reports about half of all men and more than 3 out of 4 women have HPV. But most people who have HPV don’t know it. Most people will have no symptoms.

What I am saying is that - you are normal.

Nice, good, kind, beautiful people get sexually transmitted infections (STIs) everyday and HPV is the most prevalent.

What do you do now? Have a pap smear done every six months for the next three years. This will check for any cell change in your cervix. If all is well after 3 years, start to go yearly. It does not sound like you have any visible warts (inside or outside). During a pap your doctor looks for internal warts. If you have them externally, you’ll feel them while you wash your vulva and will be able to see them if you look at your body with a mirror.

If warts develop, make an appointment and your doctor will remove them. This procedure takes a moment in an office visit. Internal strains of HPV are the one that have a chance of developing into cervical cancer. But if you are getting regular pap smears, you will see any cell change early and they can treat you.

Try not to let this drive you crazy. Find ways to be kind to your self - call a friend, go for a walk, get a massage… Because like I said— nice, good, kind, beautiful people get sexually transmitted infections everyday. A healthy body starts with a healthy state of mind. It all starts with you loving yourself.

Get more info from Planned Parenthood’s HPV site.